We’ve all encountered those individuals who seem to possess an innate talent for gift-giving. Their presents are consistently just right—thoughtful, unique, and personal—no matter the occasion or the complete absence of one. But what’s their secret? How can the rest of us improve our gifting skills? Here are five tips to enhance your gifting game.
**1. Don’t Wait for an Occasion**
If you come across something that instantly reminds you of someone special in your life, why not seize that moment and gift it “just because”? I like to call these “random acts of gifting.” Sure, not every find will be feasible—like a priceless piece of art or a designer handbag—but smaller tokens, such as a quirky item from a thrift shop, local delicacies from your travels, or a box of chocolates, can speak volumes when given unexpectedly. These spontaneous gifts showcase thoughtfulness over obligation, making your recipient feel genuinely appreciated.
**2. Observe and Research**
While it might be tempting to ask someone what they want, doing so can come across as unimaginative and could spoil the enjoyment of a surprise. Instead, pay attention to the preferences and dislikes of those around you. You don’t need an elaborate system, just jot down who isn’t fond of scented candles or who loves salted caramel. If a friend expresses interest in a particular item or compliments someone else’s shoes or jewelry, take note. These observations can help you build a clear picture of what your giftee might appreciate and simplify your decision-making process in the end.
**3. Gift According to Your Relationship**
Understanding the nuances of your relationship is essential when selecting a gift. Gifting can be subjective, and what’s appropriate to one person might not be to another. For instance, giving a lavish gift like perfume or fine jewelry to someone you barely know could lead to discomfort rather than gratitude. Conversely, offering something generic that aligns with their demographic rather than their personality—like a gift card or a basic toiletry set—might also miss the mark.
**4. An Expensive Gift Isn’t Always Foolproof**
Research has shown that the higher the price of a gift, the greater the expectation for appreciation. However, a hefty price tag doesn’t guarantee it’s the perfect choice. Generosity can be measured in various ways—time, effort, insight, and emotional understanding can often be more meaningful. In today’s world, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that the best gifts are the most expensive ones. Yet, offering a handmade item or a unique service can forge deeper connections, as these gifts are personal and truly one-of-a-kind. Remember, it’s the thought that counts more than the monetary value.
**5. It’s Not About You**
One common mistake is choosing gifts based on what you would enjoy instead of considering the recipient’s preferences. While it’s normal to be drawn to certain styles or brands, stepping back and evaluating whether the gift is truly suited for the recipient is essential. Additionally, be cautious of engaging in a competitive or reciprocal mindset when gifting. The joy of giving should stem from the happiness you bring to the recipient, not from seeking validation or expecting something in return.
As you navigate the world of gift-giving, remember that the best gifts often come from a place of genuine thought and connection. For that special someone in your life, consider treating them to Lily O’Brien’s Desserts Collection—an indulgent selection of chocolates inspired by classic desserts. And don’t forget, there’s also an opportunity to win a delightful hamper of Lily O’Brien’s chocolates to share with a friend!
